Being a Great Mum

Post mothers day, the perfect time to reflect. I want to teach Sienna emotional intelligence; like the importance of loving herself, of looking after her own needs as well as an appreciation of and empathy with the needs of others (like what would mummy like to do on mothers day).

I want to expose her to great experiences and adventures, meeting tea pluckers in sri lanka, plucking mountain pepper berries in Gippsland gullies, while ensuring there are also enough challenges to teach her to fight. I want to be her best friend and greatest supporter, and be able to follow through on ‘no TV for a week’. And I want to get her to school on time, with homework done, correct books and school jacket in bag two days in a row.

What do you think are the elements of being a great mum?

2 thoughts on “Being a Great Mum”

  1. Emelye Lovell

    I myself, am not yet a mum (one day…) but I really agree with bestowing emotional intelligence on young girls. I always make an effort to say things like,’that was very generous’, or ‘what a clever thing to say’, rather than just ‘you look pretty today’ or ‘what a cute dress you have on’. I think it creates a better perception of what’s important and what makes an accomplished individual.
    I think a great mother listens to her children intently. She is open. She gives great hugs, shares her gift of hindsight, maintains a level of discipline and challenge, challenges her children on their motivations, moral code, decisions and so on, to encourage them to form beliefs and values. And she tells great, imaginative stories. 🙂

  2. Engagement. That is the key. Many parents judge their children in ‘positive’ ways however, the unintended consequence of that is the child learns to seek external approval, rather than trusting themself. Similarly, “I’m so proud of you” sounds great, but what when it’s not said? The unintended consequence is the introduction of shame-by-default. The key is, therefore, engagement. “What do you think?” “How do you feel?” “Tell me about it…” The child learns How to think, not What to think.
    Oh, and toss in some meaningful boundaries and rules.

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